Tuesday, May 9, 2017

Sewickley Academy Presents Conversations that Connect: Understanding and Supporting the Introverted Child



American culture tends to celebrate being outgoing and highly social. Introverts can be made to feel unappreciated and overlooked, even though their quiet, contemplative style brings extraordinary talents and insights. Learn more about introverts--including insights from several SA students.
Join Sewickley Academy’s Director of Support Services Dr. Shannon Mulholland as she shares her expertise and guidance about how parents can understand and support an introverted child.

Planning to attend? View this TED Talk before the presentation.

Date: Tuesday, May 16, 2017, from 8:30 - 9:30 a.m.
Location: Sewickley Academy’s Hansen Library, Boyd Room

All parents and guardians are welcome.

Questions? Contact School Counselor Lynn Sanborne, MSW.


Conversations that Connect is sponsored by Sewickley Academy's Department of Support Services and the Home and School Association.

This event is free and open to the public.

Friday, May 5, 2017

Parents - "13 Reasons Why" you should read this message!

In a recent Youth Connect meeting all in attendance had heard about the Netflix Series "13 Reasons Why" that many young people (pre-teens as well as teens) are watching.  It is extremely compelling and disturbing as it could be construed as glorifying teen suicide, excessive drinking, and other high risk behaviors.  

Clinical experts are worried that the show may lead to "Suicide contagion", or the risk of copy-cat behavior among those who are watching the series.  


Here are several links to stories about the series in the news: http://www.cnn.com/2017/04/25/health/13-reasons-why-teen-suicide-debate-explainer/

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/02/arts/television/netflix-to-add-warning-to-start-of-13-reasons-why.html?_r=0
http://www.npr.org/sections/ed/2017/05/05/526871398/facts-about-teens-suicide-and-13-reasons-why

If your teen is watching this series please consider watching it together or separately, then discuss what you have seen. 

If you feel that your teen needs help here are a few resources for you in addition to your school counselors:  

If there is an immediate threat to someone's health call 911.  

You can also get help from the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Locally you can contact the experts at the Samaritan Counseling Center: 
http://www.samaritancounseling.net/

Sewickley Academy's librarian put together a list of books for teens with characters facing metal illness challenges.  A link to this list is here: https://sewickley.myschoolapp.com/ftpimages/636/download/download_2319218.pdf





Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Helpful Technology Information for Parents


The movie Screenagers included many useful tips for parents, such as having Tech Talk Tuesdays with your kids, and working with your children on an agreed upon contract for technology use.  If you missed the movie last week you can still get the tips and loads of insightful information on their website:  https://www.screenagersmovie.com/contracts-1/

Dr. Kelly Close spoke in detail at the break out session for parents of younger children about parental controls.  Dr. Close talked about how it’s tough to manage some persistent children's access to the Web and that parental controls and monitoring tools can help. These tools work best when used openly and honestly in partnership with your kids.  

Common Sense Media has a terrific discussion on this at:

Dr. Close had so much valuable information that many parents asked her for more details.  So Dr. Close wanted to share the following list of potential functionality and her recommendations on the available parent control/monitoring applications: (Youth Connect is exceedingly grateful to her for sharing this valuable information.) 

Here are MANY of the features that the control/monitoring software programs have, but none have all of them:  
a.              Remote ability for you to change settings
b.              Per user controls (each user has their own limits) and number of users each program covers (typically 5 or more people)
c.              Age-based profiles that allow setup to be easier and based on best practices
d.              App download restrictions- block or limit App use and download
e.              Time restrictions by time of day, number of hours, time on specific media (videos, texting, social media, phone), time on specific apps…
f.               Time restrictions tracked across multiple devices (don’t just switch from phone to computer to get more time)
g.              Set limits separately for each device associated with the child's profile. For example, you could ban smartphone use during school hours, and block computer use when the child is supposed to be asleep.
h.              Phone:  Text tracking and/or mirrored to your phone/computer PLUS text and phone call history log
i.                Number of devices that can be supported- usually 5+ for EACH person
j.                Type of devices supported (android vs Iphone vs PC vs Mac...)
k.              Web content filters (prevent them from accessing websites and videos that are not appropriate)
l.                Block secure (HTTPS) websites if they match a banned category, so your clever teen won't be able to evade its notice by using a secure anonymizing proxy website.
m.            Social media tracking and restrictions
n.              Personal data- If your child creates an account using a false age, you'll get a notification. You also get notified any time the child posts personal data
o.              Real-time notification of attempted abuse and history of this (are they trying to go to bad sites)
p.              Real-time notification of possibly inappropriate posts to social media or texts by your child (such as giving out personal information or swearing)
q.              FYI:  In most cases, installation of social media tracking requires that you know your child's login credentials, or that you convince the child to log in and install the tracker's app. Disabling this kind of data collection is a snap for the child, so here, more than ever, you need to get agreement from your child.
r.               Prevent texting with strangers
s.              Tracking contacts and social media
t.               Overall time limits and time limits by media type (text, web, phone, video…)
u.              Per-App time limits
v.              Some of these tools let kids remotely request parental override to unblock a particular site, or get extra time online to finish homework.
w.             Control game usage based on ESRB ratings
x.              GPS Tracking with viewable history
y.              Geofencing- setup alerts for parents when the child reaches or leaves a destination
z.              Panic alert to notify specific contacts as to location of the child
aa.           Forced Safe Search on browsers and Youtube based on age and settings, even if you have not done this on the browsers yourself.  Prevents children from turning it off in the browser settings
bb.           Video tracking- monitor what videos your child watches on YouTube or Hulu. Each item includes the date and time of viewing along with the video's category. Opening an item gets you the full description, a thumbnail image, and a link so you can view the clip yourself.
cc.           Ability to remotely lock the phone
dd.           One time fee vs yearly or monthly fee
ee.           Know that certain apps and software work better or worse depending if Iphone, Android, Mac, Chromebook…

Recommendations:  
If using Android and PC/Chromebook:
Qustodio Parental Control
around $69/year  This is the only one that has good social media controls.  

 OR 
 Symantec Norton Family Premier- around $49/year  Review: http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,2372155,00.asp   See website: https://family.norton.com/web/ 


If Using an Iphone/IOS and/or Mac:
Qustodio Parental Control

I have no investment or stake in any of these companies, but they seem the easiest to use with the most features

 Thank you,
Kelly Close MD, MPH
Mom


Monday, October 17, 2016

Are your children stressed? Tune into a live chat with Dr. Pope to learn how you can help them cope.

You’re Invited! LIVE FACEBOOK CHAT on Ways Parents Can Help Kids Manage Stress
Denise Pope- Meet The Parents Hour- 10-19-16.jpgJoin us on Wednesday, October 19 from 12:00-1:00 p.m. EDT for a live Facebook chat with Dr. Denise Pope, co-founder of Challenge Success at Stanford University and author of Overloaded and Underprepared: Strategies for Stronger Schools and Healthy, Successful Kids. The discussion will explore ways that parents can help their kids manage their time better, stay focused and handle stress in today’s hectic academic environment.
To participate in the chat, please “Like” and visit the Partnership’s Facebook Page at 12:00 p.m. EDT on October 19. The chat will take place right under the announcement image of Dr. Pope in the comment thread. Please make sure to refresh your browser throughout the chat to view all of the comments in real time and follow the live conversation.
We invite you to submit questions in advance and Dr. Pope will do her best to answer them during the chat.
Submit Your Questions Now
Dr. Pope is featured in our new documentary film BREAKING POINTS, about Rx stimulant abuse among young people and the unhealthy ways teens cope with stress.

Wednesday, September 14, 2016


The Laughlin Children's Center is offering a four session workshop for teens and pre-teens on the practice of Mindfullness this October.  Many people use Mindfulness techniques to help focus on the present moment, increase self awareness, and reduce stress. 

For more information please the flyer below, or contact Heather Forsythe at karunayoga1@hotmail.com, 717-377-8639.

Thursday, May 5, 2016

Screening "The Mask You Live In", May 5, 2016 at 6:30 at QV Middle School

Please join us for a special screening of The Mask You Live In at 6:30 on May 5, 2016 at Quaker Valley Middle School.  The film presents many of the challenges facing our boys and young men growing up today.

Here is the trailer:
Child care will be provided. Not recommended for children under 16 years of age.  

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

What if my child is the bully?


There are some excellent insights in this article from a mom who discovered that her daughter wasn't being so nice...

http://community.today.com/post/my-worst-nightmare-what-if-i-raised-the-bully